Unlock the Secrets
to a Fulfilling Relationship
Transform Your Relationship Today with "This Relationship Thing"
- 15 week course
Unlock the Secrets to a Thriving Relationship
Join and Transform Your Love Life!
Do you feel stuck in your relationship? Struggling with constant conflicts? Or simply want to take your relationship from good to great? Join our free webinar where Andrew and Melissa, clinical psychologists with over a decade of experience, share practical tips and insights to help you communicate better, resolve conflicts, and build a fulfilling partnership.
15 Hours of Therapy in One Course!
Embark on a 15-week journey to deepen
your connection & enrich your life.
Here's your roadmap to a fulfilling relationship
Improve Communication
Resolve Conflicts Efficiently
Deep Emotional Connection
Self-Awareness & Growth
Why choose
"This Relationship Thing"
No More Guesswork in Love
Only Proven Methods
Tailored to Your Needs
From conflict resolution to deepening your emotional connection, get tools that address your unique challenges.
One Size Fits All
Our strategies are universally applicable, whether you’re looking to prevent future issues or navigate current ones.
Adjust the Intensity
Work through the program at your pace, adjusting focus areas as your relationship evolves.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can "This Relationship Thing" help if we're already considering separation?
Absolutely. Our program is designed to address the root causes of relationship dissatisfaction, whether you’re facing communication breakdowns, emotional disconnect, or other challenges. By applying our strategies focused on empathy, conflict resolution, and deepening connections, many couples have found a new path forward together, even when separation seemed imminent.
Is this program suitable for long-distance relationships?
Yes, “This Relationship Thing” is highly effective for couples in long-distance relationships. The program’s tools and techniques are designed to enhance communication, foster emotional intimacy, and navigate the unique challenges of being apart, making it an ideal resource for couples regardless of distance.
How much time do we need to dedicate to see improvements?
The program is designed to fit into your lifestyle. Many couples begin to notice positive changes within the first few weeks by dedicating just a few hours a week to the exercises and strategies. Consistency and a genuine commitment to applying the principles are key to experiencing transformative results.
Are the strategies in "This Relationship Thing" supported by research?
Yes, every aspect of our program is grounded in clinical psychology and evidence-based practices. Our founders, both registered clinical psychologists, have incorporated the latest research in relationship dynamics, communication theory, and emotional intelligence to create a program that’s both effective and scientifically sound.
How do we handle disagreements about participating in the program?
It’s common for one partner to be more hesitant about trying new approaches. We recommend starting with our free webinar as a low-pressure way to introduce the concepts. The program is designed to be engaging and insightful for both partners, providing immediate value that can motivate continued participation.
What if our specific issue isn't directly addressed in the program?
“This Relationship Thing” covers a wide range of topics and challenges, offering versatile tools that can be applied to various situations. However, we also offer support and guidance through our community and additional resources for more specific or complex issues. We’re committed to helping every couple find solutions that work for them.
Can "This Relationship Thing" replace traditional couples therapy?
While our program can significantly enhance your relationship and may serve as a valuable resource on its own, it’s designed to complement, not replace, traditional therapy. For couples facing severe issues or needing personalized, one-on-one support, we recommend consulting a licensed therapist in addition to using our program.
Didn't Find What You're Looking For?
If you have any additional questions or need further assistance, please feel free to reach out to us. We’re here to help and would love to connect with you. You can contact us via any of our social media platforms or send us an email directly.
Transform Your Relationships with our Expert Course
Learn from renowned Clinical Psychologists
Are you ready to your relationship to the next level? Our comprehensive online course is designed to help you and your partner communicate better, resolve conflicts, and build a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Based on over 20 years of combined experience, our course provides practical tools and insights that you can apply immediately.
Comprehensive Modules
Covering empathy, communication, and conflict resolution.
Real-Life Applications
Techniques you can use in your daily life.
Expert
Guidance
Learn from experienced clinical psychologists.
Flexible
Learning
Access the course, anytime, anywhere.
Let’s Reflect
Setting the Stage for Self-Awareness
Embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth. This initial phase sets the foundation for a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationship.
Week 1: Rekindling the Flame: Resetting Context
Rediscover the essence of your relationship by resetting the context. This week focuses on understanding the past and setting the stage for a brighter future together.
Week 2: Traumatic Events – Your Story Needs to Be Known
Share and acknowledge past traumas to heal and grow. This week provides a safe space to open up and understand each other’s stories.
Week 2: A deep dive to help you turn traumas into wisdom
Engage in a structured approach to address and process traumatic events. This worksheet guides you through the healing process step by step.
Retrain
Expert-level communications and conflict resolution training.
Week 3: Building a Person-Centered Relationship
Learn the art of creating a relationship that prioritizes each partner’s needs and desires. This week focuses on fostering mutual respect and understanding.
Week 4: How to Validate Your Partner and Why It Matters
Discover the importance of validation in a relationship. Learn practical techniques to make your partner feel heard and valued.
Week 4: A “How to” Guide on Validation
Dive deeper into the practice of validation with this comprehensive guide. Understand the nuances and apply them to strengthen your bond.
Week 5: Linear vs Circular Thinking: How to Expand Your Mind and Improve Your Relationship
Explore different thinking patterns and their impact on your relationship. This week encourages you to broaden your perspective and enhance your connection.
Week 5: Practical Tips to Start Mastering Thinking
Implement practical strategies to master your thinking patterns. These tips will help you navigate relationship challenges more effectively.
Week 6: Mastering Meta-Communication
Unlock the power of meta-communication to improve your relationship. Learn how to communicate about communication and resolve conflicts more efficiently.
Week 6: Let’s Practice Meta-Communication
Put theory into practice with hands-on exercises. This week focuses on honing your meta-communication skills through real-life scenarios.
Week 7: How to Solve Problems with Your Partner Without Losing Your Cool
Develop strategies to address conflicts calmly and constructively. This week provides tools to maintain composure and find solutions together.
Week 7: A “How to” Guide with Examples on Learning and Practicing How to Fight Well in Your Relationship
Learn the art of healthy conflict resolution with practical examples. This guide helps you navigate disagreements without damaging your relationship.
Week 8: Speak Your Heart: Navigating and Expressing Relationship Needs
Express your needs and desires openly and honestly. This week focuses on effective communication to strengthen your emotional connection.
Week 9: Bringing It All Together: The Conflict Crusher!
Combine all the skills you’ve learned to tackle conflicts head-on. This week provides a comprehensive approach to resolving disputes and maintaining harmony.
Rumble!
If you avoid the conflict you will avoid the relationship. Let's grow by having some tough conversations.
Combine all the skills you’ve learned to tackle conflicts head-on. The weeks to follow provide a comprehensive approach to resolving disputes and maintaining harmony.
Week 10: How to Get Along Better with Your Partner by Being More Emotionally Flexible
Enhance your relationship by developing emotional flexibility. This week encourages you to adapt and respond to your partner’s needs with empathy.
Week 10: Assessing Flexibility vs Rigidity and How to Work Towards Finding Our Balance
Evaluate your emotional responses and find a balance between flexibility and rigidity. This week helps you create a more harmonious relationship dynamic.
Week 11: Emotional Distance
Understand and address emotional distance in your relationship. This week provides insights into maintaining closeness and connection.
BONUS – Week 11: Creating a Healthy Understanding of Emotional Distance
Gain a deeper understanding of emotional distance and its impact. This bonus week offers strategies to bridge the gap and strengthen your bond.
Week 12: Clarity of Self-Presentation
Present yourself authentically and clearly to your partner. This week focuses on improving self-expression and communication.
BONUS: Week 12: How Can You Improve on Your Clarity of Self-Presentation?
Enhance your self-presentation skills with practical tips. This bonus week helps you communicate more effectively and authentically.
Week 13: Potential for Eliciting Rejection or Acceptance by Your Words and Actions (An Audit of Self)
Reflect on how your words and actions impact your relationship. This week encourages self-awareness and growth through honest evaluation.
Week 13: The Relationship Enhancer: A Self-Evaluation and Feedback Exercise on Your Interpersonal Skills and Maneuvers
Engage in a self-evaluation exercise to enhance your relationship skills. This week provides feedback and insights to help you grow together.
Week 14: Reflecting on the Definition of Your Relationship
Define and understand the unique dynamics of your relationship. This week encourages you to reflect on your bond and its meaning.
Week 14: Let’s Work Towards Defining Your Relationship
Collaborate with your partner to define your relationship’s goals and values. This week focuses on creating a shared vision for your future together.
Week 15: Control and the Role It Plays in Your Relationship
Explore the dynamics of control within your relationship. This week provides insights into understanding and addressing control issues.
Week 15: Gaslighting
Understand the concept of gaslighting and its impact on relationships. This week offers strategies to recognize and address manipulative behaviors.
Week 15: Family Tree of Control: How to Explore and Understand Your Family Patterns of Control
Examine your family’s patterns of control and their influence on your relationship. This week helps you break free from unhealthy dynamics and create a healthier future together.
What Clients Say About US
Johan van der Merwe
Cape Town
South Africa
Andrew didn’t just tell me what I wanted to hear; he challenged me to see how my actions were impacting our connections. It wasn’t always easy, but I felt a significant shift with every session. He has taught me not only to see things from another perspective but also to genuinely feel empathy in every relationship.
In my relationship with my wife and son, Andrew has guided me to truly come up to the surface and take a deep breath – literally, with the Wim Hof breathing technique to manage my stress and approach situations with a calmer perspective. This simple practice has made a world of difference in how I communicate with my wife and connect with my son. His invaluable insights have been transformative.
Samuel Garcia
Johannesburg
South Africa
If there is one thing that changed in my life, and that I try to implement everyday in my relationship and in life, it is EMPATHY.
To see my partner, not as the enemy, but as a teammate. And to approach the problem as a challenge, together, as a team.
It is not me against her but rather US against the problem.
And when I get triggered, take a step back, ask WHY and WHERE does it come from, communicate it to her so she knows my past better and then face the problem.
Sometimes the problem isn’t a problem anymore when I just communicate that I triggered.
Emily Thompson
Pretoria
South Africa
Kintsugi: the ancient Japanese art of repairing cherished vessels with silver or gold-coated lacquer, beautifully encapsulates the essence of SHIP and TRT with Andrew Visagie. This approach is dedicated to equipping you with the resources and skills necessary to transform your jagged edges into shimmering highlights of silver and gold. Andrew Visagie provides and empathetic and supportive space, fostering growth and healing.
Through this transformative journey, I gained a new perspective, finding peace and a renewed sense of self. Just as Kintsugi turns broken pottery into works of art, SHIP and TRT helped me embrace my imperfections and rebuild my relationship into something stronger and more beautiful that before.
About Your Hosts
Andrew & Melissa Visagie
Andrew and Melissa are experienced clinical psychologists who have dedicated their careers to helping couples navigate relationship challenges. Their unique approach combines scientific knowledge with practical application, offering couples the tools they need to transform their relationships.
